With it being Easter weekend we are spending a lot of time visiting family. I have a very large extending family. I never see everyone as often as I would like to, and now as we are all getting older the extended family doesn’t always get together. I miss it greatly. For as long as I can remember every Easter, Thanksgiving and Christmas the whole family would get together; I got to see my grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins! As the years passed these family gatherings were the only times I would see my cousins. Now that I am “married” and have children I hardly ever see my aunts, uncles and cousins. Our family’s have just gotten too big, on my dad’s side I think there is over 40 of us if we were to all get together(my grandparents have 12 great grandchildren, and more to come)!
This Easter marks a big turning point in family holidays for us. One that is both positive and sad at the same time. We only got together with immediate family. To some people this may not seem like a big deal but when you have been gathering with extended family for 27 years it’s sad when it ends. I may only see my cousins once a year now, and that’s only if someone plans a big gathering. But with life happening to everyone it’s too difficult to all be in the same place at the same time during the holidays.
The good part about this change is that we can now spend more quality time with the family closest to us. Our parents, siblings and nephews. This is the family we grew with for 20 plus years. The family we lived with, shared our life with. This is the family that was there for us no matter what. If we lose that connection we will have lost so much more. So this year instead of trying to race around to every Easter (can be 4 or more for some people) and spend only an hour or 2 at each gathering, we have chosen to spend a whole afternoon with each family (this still puts us at 3 dinners!) It will be much calmer, giving us a chance to truly reconnect with family.
I now understand why some families have family reunions. It’s because you need a whole day or weekend to really be able to enjoy and visit with your extended family. Trying to squeeze it into a special holiday is too much once the family grows to a certain size.
Who are you spending this Easter with? Do you have any traditions with your extended family? I would love to hear about them.
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